Jewish Funerals

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Time traditions

It is regarded as imperative that Jews are buried as soon as possible, usually within 24 hours of death.

Burials do not take place on Shabbat (Friday night & Saturday), nor on Religious Holidays.

Burial / Cremation

Orthodox Jews only permit burial.
Reform and Liberal Jews also allow cremation.

Jews will normally wish to be buried or interred in a Jewish cemetery.

All Jews are clothed in a white shroud, and buried in simple, unadorned coffins.
There are no distinctions of wealth or status in death.

Protocols with Authorities

It is helpful the prepare a protocol in advance  with Doctors, Hospitals, Coroners and the local council Registrars, in order to negate any possible hurdles to the speed of this process.

Doctors and hospital administrators should be made aware of the necessity of a 24 hour burial as soon as possible.

In cities with large Jewish populations, hospitals and Registrars will often be sensitive to this and can process the necessary documentation quickly.
In other areas it may well be worth opening up a dialogue with health care and statutory organisations in advance of any need.

Autopsies

The alternative of a scan is preferred, unless completely unavoidable, as process of the autopsy is regarded as a desecration of the body.
It is becoming increasingly common for a body scan to be performed as a suitable alternative.

Death Certificates

A protocol should be arranged with the Coroner’s Office, whereby a coroner can be contactable at all times.

Burial Society / Costs

It is common for many Jews to be a member of a Burial Society, the Chevrah Kadisha. Subscribers pay into a fund over their lifetime and this covers the costs of a funeral, when carried out in the community.

If the  subscriber has moved some distance away from the Burial Society, there may be additional costs involved that are not covered by the Society.

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Shemira / Keeping watch

It is a tradition for someone to stay with the deceased right up until burial.

Some hospitals have special facilities to enable this.

Preparation for Jewish Burial

 

Taharah / טהרה

Purification — Taharah / טהרה. It is written in the Book of Ecclesiastes 5:15 — “Exactly as he came, he must depart / כל עומת שבא כן ילך”.
A newborn child is immediately washed after birth and enters this world clean and pure.
The one who departs this world must also be washed and made pure through Taharah / טהרה — purification, in Hebrew.

The Taharah / טהרה — purification of the body, should preferably be performed as close to the time of the funeral as possible, ideally no more than 3 hours prior to the funeral. The body is thoroughly washed and then it is ritually purified preferably by immersion in a Mikvah / מקוה — ritual bath, or by pouring in a continuous flow a substantial amount (Nine Kabin / תשעה קבין) of water over the body. It is done by the Chevra Kadisha / חברה קדישא — the Jewish burial society, which engages God-fearing Jews, who are knowledgeable in this specific task. Men prepare deceased men and women prepare women.

In accordance with the Jewish tradition, Taharah is performed while reciting special prayers and relevant scriptural verses such as “Then I will sprinkle clean water upon you and you shall be clean, from all your uncleanness and from all your idols, I will cleanse you / וזרקתי עליכם מים טהורים וטהרתם מכל טמאותיכם ומכל גלוליכם אטהר אתכם”  (Ezekiel 36:25). Usually one person recites the prayers loudly enough to be heard by each participant.

Those engaged in doing the Taharah, are careful to maintain the dignity of the deceased, immediately covering parts of body they washed. Additionally, at no time is the face of the deceased allowed to face downward. In some communities it is customary to wash the deceased under a sheet without uncovering any part of the body for washing. No objects are passed or handed over the deceased and all unrelated activities, such as eating, drinking, smoking or unnecessary talking, are prohibited. Since it is extremely rare that members of the family will do the Taharah, we shall omit a detailed description of the Taharah process.

Infants
Circumcision. An infant, who died before being named, must be given a name and, if the child is male, circumcised (without a blessing) before doing the Taharah.

JJBS
For non-Orthodox funerals it may be useful to contact the Joint Jewish Burial Society
Joint Jewish Burial Society

GUIDELINES FOR DEALING WITH DYING AND DECEASED JEWISH PATIENTS ISSUED BY THE MANCHESTER BETH DIN IN CONJUCTION WITH THE HEBREW VISITATION BOARD, THE JEWISH VISITING SERVICES, AND MISASKIM

If a Jewish patient is seen to be approaching death, the next of kin should be informed. If no relative is available, contact should be made with either the visiting Jewish Chaplain, or the minister of the patients Synagogue OR MISASKIM MANCHESTER.

Similarly in case of death, inform those mentioned in paragraph 1.

The body of the deceased should remain untouched for a period of 20 minutes, during which time venflons and ET tubes etc. should remain in place.

After this period has elapsed, if no member of the family or Jewish community capable of dealing with the body has arrived, the following procedure should be carried out by the Nursing staff:
The eyes and mouth should be closed. The mouth should be held in a closed position by placing a cloth under the chin and tying it above the head.

  • The fingers of each hand should be straightened and the hands and arms should be parallel to the body. Similarly, the legs and feet should be straightened
  • Any tubes etc. or artificial limbs should be removed and any incisions plugged so as to prevent or stem a flow of blood
  • Any excess dirt should be wiped away or washed off
  • The body, still fully clothed, should be wrapped in a sheet and placed in the hospital mortuary IN THE FRIDGE where it should remain untouched pending the arrival of the authorised Jewish undertaker or his representative
  • The Jewish Sabbath commences on Friday at sunset and ends on Saturday with nightfall. Similarly, all Jewish festivals commence sunset and end with nightfall. During this period it will not be possible to make contact with the chaplain or Jewish undertakers, nor will they be able to attend the body. The procedure outlined above should therefore be adopted
  • The washing and preparation of the body for burial are intrinsic parts of Jewish ritual which should remain the prerogative of the Jewish Burial Society.
  • It would be helpful if the body of the deceased could be labelled with the word “Jewish”. Writing on the body itself would cause distress to the relatives.

Jewish law necessitates the carrying out of a funeral, as soon as possible after death. It is therefore important to assist in the provision of a death certificate at the earliest possible opportunity thereby enabling arrangements to be commenced.

When the registrar is closed, facilities exist for obtaining a disposal note to allow burial to take place. Relatives of the deceased should be advised to contact Mr. Green on 0161 740 4830 as soon as possible after 10.00am on Sunday mornings and public holidays.

In case a Post Mortem is requested
Jewish law requires the body to remain totally intact after death and regards the carrying out of a post-mortem as a desecration of the body. Care should therefore be taken to ensure that the relatives of Jewish patients are not asked to consent to a post-mortem not required by law (i.e. ordered by a Coroner), as this is likely to cause offence and distress.

Similarly, Orthodox Jewish law insists on burial rather than cremation and any suggestion to carry out cremation would also cause offence and distress. (Does not apply to Reform or Liberal Jews)

All still births require burial.

In the event of miscarriage, the parents should be consulted about disposal of the foetus to enable them to consult their Rabbi OR MISASKIM. for guidance.

In the event of a pregnant woman dying without there being a possibility of safely delivering the child, the mother and child should be buried together without a caesarean section being performed.

Accompanying the deceased
Occasionally, a request may be received for members of the family or the Jewish community to remain with the deceased either at the bedside or after the body has been removed to the mortuary. The request is in keeping with the Jewish tradition and should be treated favourably wherever possible.

In the event of a death taking place where the deceased has no known next of kin or any other person to effect burial arrangements, contact should initially be made with the Jewish Chaplain.

Arrangements to consider

If you are a member of a Synagogue there’s a good chance you subscribed to the Burial Board also.
Burial Boards/Societies (Chevrah Kadisha) provide the means for everyone in that community to receive an equal burial.
All the costs will have been taken care of by your subscription.
Almost all that is left to do is for family and friends to mourn.

However if you or a relative are not part of a Burial Board then there will be no advanced provision.
The costs will have to be covered by the family, probably immediately, who will hope to recoup them from the estate left behind by the deceased.

Here are some pointers, if you are wondering what needs considering, for when the time comes.

1.
Many people join the Burial Board of their synagogue, and often continue to pay a subscription even after they have move some distance away.
If you know of any history of synagogue membership, it may be worth investigating further.

Transferring funds from one Burial Board to another is notoriously difficult (and often impossible), and frequently that is the reason that people stay with the original even if they move to another synagogue or another city.

2.
If the individual has no Burial Board provision, it would be prudent for them or their Next of Kin to approach an appropriate Synagogue and their Burial Board, as far in advance as possible.

Bear in mind that one-off costs for non-members of burial boards can be steep.
This can be offset by the estate or life assurance policies.

If the synagogue had no previous connection with the family, don’t be surprised or offended if they insist on receiving full payment before carrying out a funeral.
It may not “sound” very charitable, but they are obliged to protect the resources already assured for existing members.

3.
Having made suitable arrangements with a synagogue/burial board, you should have a contract in writing, outlining what services they will provide and how much the fixed and other costs are.

It would be normal for all the standard costs of a Jewish funeral to be included. This will probably include the services of an appropriate undertaker.

Check who would officiate at any funeral, and whether the synagogue would provide the low chairs (required) and siddurim (prayer books) for the seven days of sitting Shiva after the funeral. Also whether they would provide people to official at prayers each day/night.

If the individual lives some distance away, it could be that the transportation costs may have to be borne by the estate or the family.

4.
Points that a discussion with a Synagogue / Burial Board should cover…

  • – Existing Burial Board Membership or Costs / financial plan.
  • – Contact between a Residents Home and the Burial Board regarding procedure.
  • – Name of the undertakers to be used.
  • – Transportation.
  • – Preparatory arrangements prior to funeral.
  • – Requests for Shemira (staying with the deceased)
  • – Attendance of Rabbi / Officiant at a) funeral b) Shiva
  • – Help with arranging a Minyan (to enable saying of the Mourners Prayers)
  • – Chairs and siddurim for the seven days of sitting Shiva
  • – Recommendations for stonemason

The above isn’t exhaustive, but should put you on the right road.